In today’s post we’re looking at whether it’s possible to fix a break-up with LOA, and it’s a response to a question sent in from an awesome reader who says:
My biggest confusion is to know if I can be with my ex-boyfriend again who I know loves me and wants to be with me back. There are many people who say it’s possible and some say it’s not because of free will. I truly believe he wants to be with me but due to his fears, he is giving up on us.
This is a great question, because the idea of being able to fix a break-up with LOA touches on that gray area between what we want versus what someone else wants. Which tends to be an area of great confusion for a great many people: when one person wants something and another person potentially wants something different, what actually ends up getting manifested? Which desire is the one that ends up coming true?
The answer is: they both do.
Now here’s the tricky part: what you both end up manifesting is whatever you are in alignment with, which is not necessarily what you think you want.
How to fix a break-up with LOA
So, the simple answer to the question of whether or not you can fix a break-up with LOA is that it really could go both ways, and the determining factor (as with everything) is with the alignment of both individuals. More specifically, it is always possible that you could get back together with your ex, but only if you are both in alignment with this. That’s where the free will comes in: if either one of you is not aligned with getting back together with each other, it’s not going to happen. And remember that it has more to do with just thinking that you want to be with each other – both of your internal belief systems with regards to being in a relationship will come into play here, too.
If you are both in alignment with getting back together, then you will definitely move forward together in what we call a co-creation; that is, you’ll build that reality with each other, together (hence the term “co-creation”).
(As an interesting side note here, anyone who crosses you path and has any kind of effect on you – even the annoying guy on the bus who plays his MP3 player really, really, loudly — is there because you’re in alignment with them being there… it’s just another form of co-creation.)
Figuring out what you really want
The more important thing with this kind of question, however, is for you to figure out what it is you really want. Is it this specific person that you really want? Or is it more that you really want to be in a wonderful relationship with someone who loves you, and who you love in return. Someone who respects you and adores you and gives you all those butterflies in your stomach every time you think about him? Really think about this, because it’s important. And if you realize that what you really want is just to be in great relationship, with someone really awesome – whoever that might end up being — then it’s actually critical that you don’t make it dependent on this one specific guy, because when you do that, you put constraints on what the Universe is trying to line up for you.
So focus instead on being in a great relationship. Spend some time thinking about all the great things you’re looking for in a perfect partner (whatever perfect might be for you), and how great it is to know that someone who matches that vision is out there right now looking for someone just like you, because you match his vision of the perfect partner, too! 🙂
In the end, the answer is yes, it is entirely possible to fix a break-up with LOA, but only if both parties are in alignment with getting back together again. The more important thing by far, however, is to determine whether getting back together with that specific individual is what you really want for yourself and your future. If your desire is to be in a truly amazing and fulfilling relationship that will bring you the joy and love you really want, then you have to be willing to let go. You have to be willing to trust the Universe, and trust yourself, to line up the perfect relationship for you. And it will happen.
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