What do you do when everything falls apart? When everything you’ve been working on suddenly seems to go hell all at once? When you suddenly find yourself back at square one and your dream, which was looking so promising suddenly seems even further away than it ever was before?
You get knocked down…
The last couple of months have pretty much sucked. Not just for me, but apparently also for quite a few of you, as well. At least that’s the case, judging by the messages and emails I’ve been getting lately from all sorts of people who are all feeling like they’ve suddenly been kicked in the teeth and knocked on flat on their backs by life in general. (And apologies to those of you still waiting for responses to your messages… they are coming, but like I said, the last couple of months have been nuts here, too.)
I’m not up on my astrology, so I have no idea if there’s some freaky-weird Mercury-retrograde thing happening that’s mucking things up, or whether it’s something else entirely. But I’m definitely picking up some strange energy patterns lately. Things feel unsettled; seething and almost chaotic. And it’s making a mess of all sorts of things.
Back to square one
Things are falling apart all over the place, and everything we’ve all been working so hard to achieve suddenly seems to have been ripped out from underneath our feet. It’s exhausting, it’s disheartening, it’s heartbreaking, and it’s frustrating.When it all goes to hell, you may start to think LOA is a bunch of neo-hippie crap. It’s not. Click To Tweet
It makes you start to wonder if maybe you’re wrong and all this mindset and LOA stuff really is all just a bunch of neo-hippie, feel-good crap after all. Maybe life really is a bitch and then you die, and that’s just the way it is.
Throw yourself a pity party
And you know, sometimes, you gotta just let yourself feel that way. Give yourself permission to have a pity party, because, damn it all, you’ve been working so hard, on your mindset and on taking action and doing everything right for a change that this kind of rotten hand shouldn’t be happening to you anymore! You’re angry and you’re indignant, and you have every right to be.
So let yourself feel it. Get it out of your system. Let it flow through you so that it doesn’t stay stuck within you. (And while you’re doing that, I’m going to be over here throwing my own pity party because I’m really kind of pissed at the Universe, myself, right now.)
Find the golden nugget
And then do you know what we’re all going to do? We’re going to take another look at these crappy situations we’re in and we’re going to re-evaluate them. Because there’s gotta be something in this mess that’s useful to us – something that we can dust off and use to make things better. There’s got to be something in this that will help us get even closer to where we want to be.
Because that’s how things work. Everything that happens can be used to our advantage, if we can just step back from the emotional charge that the situation holds for us and look at things clearly.Step back from the emotions & re-evaluate the situation; find the gold nugget in the wreckage. Click To Tweet
So let’s ask ourselves what we can learn from our situations. Where is the shiny nugget of gold in this mess?
Back on your feet!
If you’ve recently been dealt a particularly hard blow, then give yourself some time to get your breath back. Let yourself rest before you pull yourself back to your feet. Just make sure that you DO get back to your feet.
Refocus. When everything falls apart remember what you were trying to create and remember your why. Borrow a line from Jim Henson’s 1986 movie, Labyrinth, and remember that “the way forward is sometimes the way back”.
In other words, sometimes what looks – and feels – like being dropped back to square one, is really just a means of getting you to where you most want to be, even if it currently hurts like hell. Consider the possibility that this current situation is designed to get you what you want in the best way possible, even if you can’t possibly fathom how that could be at this moment.
One step at a time…
Know that your dream is still possible, no matter how bad you feel right now. You may want to make a few tweaks after this blow, but that’s OK. Just close your eyes. Take a deep breath. And then take a step forward from wherever you happen to find yourself right now.
Because that’s how your dream is going to get built. That’s how it was always going to get built. One day at a time; one step at a time…
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