One of my favourite LOA mantras is “as within, so without”. It’s a reminder to me that whatever is happening outside of me in my experience is a direct reflection of what is happening within me, on the inside. My external reality is a mirror of my internal thoughts, beliefs, and expectations. So when I start finding myself feeling down or pessimistic about things, or when something I’ve come across in the media upsets me, I look for ways to shift my focus into a better-feeling place. Here are some of my favourite ways to feel better fast when I’m in a funk.
8 strategies to help you feel better fast
1. Be here now.
Focus on the present moment. When we feel bad, it’s usually because our attention is focused in the past or on the future. When something we find in the news is upsetting to us, for instance, it’s almost always because there is a kernel of fear of something similar happening to us or to someone we care about; it’s fear of something that will most likely never come to pass. When you worry about the future you expend a whole lot of energy imagining negative scenarios that are going to turn out better than you think they are anyway, so why bother worrying? Likewise, the past is over and done with. It cannot be changed, for better or for worse, so why let it bother you anymore? Grounding yourself in the present moment allows you to experience your life in the only moment over which you have any control: right now.
2. Be silly.
Give yourself permission to just be silly! Have fun do something you enjoy, for no other reason than that it would be fun, even if you’re worried you’ll look like an idiot. Tell your inner critic to take a hike, let the self-criticism, go and let yourself have a moment of pure playfulness and joy.
3. Practice “pivoting”.
Pivoting is a technique described by Esther Hicks and Abraham in the book“Ask and it is Given”. If you are focusing on or obsessing about something you don’t want, take a moment to write it down. Take a sheet of paper, fold it in half length-wise and on the left-hand side, write out a comprehensive list of all the things that you are worried about or angry about or frustrated about. Get everything out. And then on the right-hand side, next to each of your negative items, write down what is that you do want, instead of that item. So, for example, if one of your negative items was that you’re afraid your car is going to crap out on you soon, then on the other side, you could write down that you want a reliable vehicle that will get you from Point A to Point B every time. You “pivot” your thoughts from negative to positive.
4. Take a walk.
I find that when I’m having trouble concentrating, or just in one of those disgruntled “meh” kind of moods where nothing feels right and everything is slightly annoying, getting outside and enjoy some sunshine and some exercise really helps to settle things down and turn my mood around.
5. Lend a hand.
Helping other people helps to make us feel better, too. Not only does it feel good when something we can do helps others (helping makes us happy!), it actually has an impact on both our mental and physical health, too. Studies have shown that older adults who regularly volunteer, for instance, enjoy higher levels of well-being than those who do not.
Laughter, as they say, is the best medicine. And I firmly believe this. So much of what makes us feel bad in life can be cured by a good laugh. Even when situations are particularly bleak, if we can still find a way to laugh, things never seem quite as bad.
7. This too shall pass.
Sometimes it helps to remember that whatever is happening in our lives right now is transient. It won’t last forever, no matter what it is. So enjoy the good things, and don’t worry so much about the bad… they’ll all be memories soon enough, and new adventures await around every corner.
8. Indulge yourself.
What’s your “guilty pleasure”? Celebrity magazines? A long soak in a hot bubble bath with a glass of wine? The latest novel from your favourite author? Indulge yourself and take some time to do something that you enjoy, just because you enjoy it.
Next time you’re feeling down, give these strategies a try. Remember that like attracts like, and by boosting your vibe, not only will you start to feel better fast, finding that better-feeling place will help you to keep yourself aligned with all the good-feeling experiences and situations that you want to attract into your life!
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