Aligning with your desires involves understanding that it’s not money that you’re really after.
Today’s post is all about aligning with your desires. It’s a response to a question regarding graduate school, money and the Law of Attraction that I received from an awesome reader, who asks:
If someone has their heart set on going to graduate school but there is no money to send them, what is the best thing to tell this person? I have already mentioned to them that the money will show up one way or another in their life, so they should not worry about it. They have been freaking out and in despair about it and they think this is it, they cannot go. But, I think otherwise. How can LOA help here?
I have to say that I love this question because on the surface it looks like a money question. But look beneath the surface, and you realize that this question is not about the money; it’s actually about understanding the difference between what we really want and what we just think we want. This is really a question about figuring out what your dreams and goals are, and then doing the all-important work of aligning with your desires. But where money gets tangled into things, it becomes all too easy to lose sight of this and focus on the wrong thing. So, let’s get started, shall we?
Aligning with your desires is a strictly personal thing
First off: you cannot determine whether or not the money will show up for another person. This situation is her reality, not yours. If she is aligned with going to graduate school, then you are right, there is nothing that will stop her from going; however, it is her job to be in alignment with this, not yours.
The problem, as I see it, is that she is stuck on the “I don’t have enough money” rather than focusing on the “I’m going to graduate school”. There are many different ways in which she could go: she could get a scholarship; she could apply for student assistance; she may be able to negotiate a payment plan with the admin office; she my get offered a fantastic job that will help pay her tuition; the school may decide she’s just so awesome that they must have her, even if it’s for free; she may write an eBook in her area of expertise and sell enough copies on Kindle to cover tuition; she may decide to join the military and they’ll pay her tuition for her. There are many possibilities here.
And I think the key is to understand that it’s not the money she really wants – she doesn’t really care about the money, after all, she just wants to go to graduate school, and it doesn’t really matter how that comes about.
Strategies for aligning with your desires
So, if it was me in this situation, I would focus completely on going to graduate school, and I would use every LOA “trick” in the book to help me with that. For example:
- I would create myself a vision board, and in this case I would use a big poster board and make it a tangible board as opposed to a Pinterest board, and I would stick it to wall opposite my bed so I could see that vision first thing every morning and last thing every night.
- I’d change my computer desktop wallpaper to a nice picture of the campus I see myself attending classes at. I’d also stick a picture up near my computer so that every time I glance up I’d see it.
- I’d visualize myself attending my classes and enjoying my whole grad school experience, laughing with friends, discussing things with my professors, studying in the library. I’d do this daily, for 5-10 minutes a day.
- I would create affirmations for myself to help ground me in the belief that I am attending graduate school. (For example, “I am a successful graduate student!” or “I am enjoying my graduate studies so much!” )
- If I found myself starting to stress about money, I would use meditation to help me relax and calm my mind. Stressing about the money will only push it further away, so it’s critical to let go and train yourself to relax instead of ramping up the panicky thoughts.
The point, of course, is to get into the mindset and feeling of already being a graduate student, because it is the energy associated with this feeling that will manifest the experience into her life.
Finally, if it doesn’t happen for her right now, it doesn’t mean that it never will. Perhaps it’s just that she’s not quite ready or that the time isn’t quite right. Or perhaps it means that something even more wonderful is in store for her.
Hey Nathalie,
This is such a wonderful post to read first thing in the morning! I especially liked and resonated with the sentence: “Stressing about the money will only push it further away, so it’s critical to let go and train yourself to relax instead of ramping up the panicky thoughts” and the very last paragraph. These are so key!
Since discovering LOA and slowly putting it into practice, seeing people worry about stuff is such a turn off and I understand why it does not work and goes against universal laws and principles. Culture perpetuates this, mostly and the work environment as well, but the whole point is not to fall into that pit and remain high-vibing.
The universe really is on our side, so, as I have learned, being cool as a cucumber and smooth as whipped cream is the way to go. Now, I need some breakfast. 🙂