If you want to achieve your goal, you need to be a vibrational match to it!
The Law of Attraction tells us that like attracts like. More specifically, it tells us that all of the experiences that make up our life are made manifest because we are an energetic or vibrational match to them; we get experiences that match what we are giving out energetically.
And knowing this, we can use it to help us achieve any goal we set for ourselves, because we know that if we want to get something (our goal), we have to be a vibrational match to it (our vibe has to match the essence of the goal we want) before it can manifest in our lives.
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Sounds easy enough, right? But it’s that matching thing that seems to trip most of us up. Just because we want something, does not necessarily mean that we are a vibrational match to it. Instead, what usually happens is that we are a match to wanting the thing rather than being a match to having the thing. Big difference.
For most of us, it goes something like this: “I want it I want it I want it sooo much… BUT I DON’T HAVE IT YET!!! Why? Why don’t I have it yet? I’ve been so patient, why isn’t it here yet? Why?!?!?”
This, sadly, is not the vibration of having the thing we want. This is the vibration of desperately wanting the thing we want, which causes the Universe to line up more situations that are a vibrational match to us desperately wanting things… but not actually having them.
4 Steps to Becoming the Vibrational Match
The trick here is to shift our focus (and therefore, our vibration) from “wanting” to “having”. But how do we give out the vibration of having, when we can so plainly see that we don’t actually, physically, have it yet? How do we become a vibrational match to our goal? Well, there are a few steps that we can take to help us out:
- Get clear on what we really want
- Understand why we want it – what feelings are attached to having it?
- Figure out what gives us the same feelings that we attach to having it.
- Do the things that give us those same feelings.
Let’s look at this using a real example: say you want to win the lottery. If we follow these steps, here’s how this could work:
Most people who think they want to win the lottery really just want to have a lot of money.
Step 1: You say you want to win the lottery. But is that really what you want? Most people who want to win the lottery actually just want to be rich. If what you really want is lots of money, get clear on that, and don’t try to constrain the Universe by insisting that the money come through a lottery win. Because, really, if some wealthy great aunt you’ve never even met and didn’t even know you had left everything to you in her will, and you suddenly got contacted out of the blue by her lawyer, informing you that you just inherited millions of dollars, would you actually be disappointed that the money didn’t come from a lottery? Not likely.
Step 2: So now you know that what you really want is lots of money. But why do you want lots of money? Is because you want the excitement of a jet-setting lifestyle? Is it because you want the security of knowing you never need to worry about how you’re going to pay your bills? Is it because you think being a multi-millionaire will bring you status and celebrity? (Keep in mind that none of these reasons are wrong… just make sure that you know why you want it.)
Step 3: If you’ve thought about it and realized that you want the money because having a jet-setting lifestyle would be exciting, for example, the next thing you need to do is figure out what gives you that same feeling of excitement right now. This is a good opportunity to take out a piece of paper and brainstorm a list of things that you can refer to.
Step 4: Finally, once you’ve figured out your what’s and your why’s, the next thing is to do the things that generate those feelings of excitement for you; you need to become a vibrational match to the essence (the feeling behind) the thing. Maybe mountain biking brings up those feelings of excitement for you, so you arrange to go biking every weekend with a friend who also loves it. And in your office, you post a few picture of the exotic jet-setting destinations you’ll be visiting. And maybe you start browsing adventure travel magazines to fire your imagination with all the possible excursions you could book. Or maybe you even start researching the details of the private jet you’re going to buy and how you’re going to decorate it. Or maybe you put together a special vision board dedicated to all of these things! 🙂
Whatever your goals are, these four steps will help you to focus on what it is you really want, and help you figure out the emotions behind it. Use those emotions to help you generate the energy (in other words, become the vibrational match) of already having what you want, right now.
The key is consistency. Do your best, every day, to create the feelings within you that are a vibrational match to what you think having what you want would bring you. The more you can keep yourself in the vibe of “I’ve got it” rather than “I want it”, the faster you are likely to manifest that desire in your physical world. On top of that, you’ll have a whole lot more fun while you’re waiting for the Universe to line things up for you!
Great post, Nathalie! You explain so clearly why wanting something often doesn’t bring what you want. I’m exhausted right now from a looong spay/neuter campaign – a good low physical energy point to figure out what I really want. Right after I sleep some more… hee hee.
Hugs,
Carole
It is one of the harder aspects of all this, isn’t it? Trying to figure out how to not be so attached to the outcome we want… I do find that it gets easier once we understand the principles behind it, though. Hope your campaign went well! 🙂
Wonderful post, Nathalie! I just read this quote by Henry Ford: “Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right”. Haha!
Yes, I have recently discovered that the Disney princesses are LOA examples in that they totally pre-paved their experiences. Very cool. So, if you really want to meet the guy, you need to see yourself talking to him, hanging out with him, dancing with him, etc. if, like Belle, you want to get out if your provincial town, you need to pre-pave what that will be like and what you would be doing out there. And so on and so forth. You need to be in that vibe, as you state so well!
I was also thinking, when I feel bogged down with problems, I should be looking to the solutions and not concentrating on the problem. Got a flooding problem, let’s say? Don’t complain about it. Instead put forth solutions and imagine it fixed and how great it will be. Just an example I used with my neighbor earlier. The point is to be in the vibration of the solution! This is key, as I have understood it and I hope I finally have! I know my comments are a bit long, but there is so much to say and exchange here! Thank you! Until next time!
I love that Henry Ford quote! I think I actually have it up on one of my Pinterest boards somewhere (and if not, I should definitely add it). 🙂
I never really thought about Disney princesses being LOA examples, but that’s brilliant! They really are all wonderful at pre-paving, using visualization techniques and reaching for the better feeling thoughts, aren’t they?
And you’re right on track with your thoughts about problems. Concentrating and obsessing about problems and focusing on how awful they are only brings more problems into your life. But focusing on seeing solutions and feeling, now, how you expect to feel when the problem is gone will go a long way towards resolving them. You put it perfectly: be in the vibration of the solution. 🙂
Hi Natalie,
Thank you so much for your post!
I am currently job searching and would like to ask you how to be in a vibrational match with ‘having’ a job rather than ‘wanting’ one? I have been applying and even going for interviews and trying my best to stay positive but I know that I am not in the exact vibration to get the particular job I want. Would love it if you could give me some useful tips 🙂
Best Wishes,
Ann
Hello Ann! Welcome to Vibe Shifting and thanks so much for taking the time to comment. 🙂 I think this is a great question, and as it’s not one I’ve covered before on the blog, I’ve actually written a whole post to answer your question and it will be published tomorrow morning.
Hiya Nathalie 🙂
Thats wonderful! I think that would be helpful to a lot of people as well. Thanks a ton!! You’re a great inspiration. If it’s not too much to ask, could you please post the link when it’s published 🙂
Bless you xx
You’re very welcome Ann, and thank you for the lovely compliment. 🙂 And, absolutely, I can post the link for you. Here it is: https://www.vibeshifting.com/job-hunting-with-law-of-attraction/