If you’ve read my post on programming your future with affirmations, you’ll already know that affirmations are one of the most powerful vibe-shifting tools we have at our disposal. But you’re probably wondering how to create affirmations that will help you achieve that shift; how do you figure out what affirmations to use, and how do you even come up with them? Before we get into the details on how to do that, however, let’s recap the purpose for using affirmations in the first place…
Why use affirmations?
The whole point of using affirmations is to permanently shift your ingrained thoughts and belief system with regards to whatever it is you are trying to achieve. If there is something that you really want, but at the same time you don’t really believe that it’s possible, you will not achieve it because you will subconsciously sabotage your own efforts to get there. You cannot make a change in your life if you don’t believe you are capable of it or that you deserve it, so the most important thing you need to do is change your entire belief system with regards to the those life changes or goals you want. Learning how to create affirmations will help you do this because if you change your thoughts, you change your world!
How to Create Affirmations in 5 Easy Steps
At this point you may be a little overwhelmed; changing your entire belief system by learning how to create affirmations may sound like a daunting task, but don’t worry – it’s actually a very simple process that you can do in 5 easy steps!
- Figure out what you want.
- Turn it into a statement.
- Be positive.
- Be realistic
- Repeat, repeat, repeat!
Here’s how it works:
Step 1: Figure out what you want. What is it that you are trying to create or manifest in your life? What is the end result you’re aiming for, and what behaviours or attitudes will you need to get yourself there? For example, do you want to live a healthier lifestyle? Do you want to handle stress better? Meet the love of your life? Have more friends? Be more successful in your business or at school? What is it that you want for yourself?
Step 2: Turn it into a statement. Once you’re clear on what you want, you need to turn it into a few short phrases, statements or sentences that define that vision for you. Try to put these phrases in present tense wherever possible, and don’t use “want” statements. In other words, “I am relaxed and peaceful” is better than “I want to be more relaxed”.
The reason for putting the phrase in the present tense is that you’re trying to make your subconscious mind believe that it’s already a foregone conclusion. You’re trying to manifest having/achieving the thing, rather than manifesting more “wanting” of the thing. This is a critical distinction. Focusing on wanting something only brings you more wanting of the thing, because if you “want” you don’t actually “have” yet. Our thoughts and feelings create our experiences and shape our world, so focus on the having rather than the wanting.
Step 3: Be positive. When you’re creating your statements, you want to make sure they are positive. You’re trying to program your subconscious to believe these statements, so you want to focus completely on what you want rather than on what you don’t want. Use “I am relaxed and peaceful” rather than “I am less stressed.” The problem with the second statement is that your subconscious mind will tend to filter out concepts like “not”, and focus instead on the “stress”. And again, what you’re focused on is what you end up creating for yourself, so if you want to rid yourself of stress, stop thinking about stress and start thinking about relaxation and tranquility instead.
Step 4: Be realistic. Sometimes, especially if you’re new to using affirmations, making a statement that is too far out of your current experience will just cause your inner critic to jump in and shut you down before you even get started. For example, “I am always peaceful and relaxed” may be too big of a jump for your current situation; if you’ve been feeling very stressed out and frazzled, and try to use that particular affirmation right off the bat, your mind might automatically call “bullshit” and make it impossible for you to believe it. If that’s the case, then try something like “I become more relaxed every day” or “I am learning to relax more and more”. The key is to create a positive statement that still feels realistic to you, and helps you make progress towards your goal, without triggering any objections from that negative little voice inside.
Step 5: Repeat, repeat, repeat! Repetition is the key to making your affirmations work for you because you’re trying to change your beliefs about what is possible for you and your own reality! A belief is just a thought that you have formed a habit of thinking, so if you change that habit, you will change your belief. And in changing your beliefs, you change your whole world!
The best time to use your affirmations depends completely upon you and your own lifestyle and habits. You can repeat your affirmations to yourself as a tool to help you relax before you go to sleep at night; You can use your affirmations first thing in the morning to help you set the tone for the day; You can use your affirmations on the bus commuting to and from work; You can tape them to the edge of your computer monitor, or tuck them into your lunch bag. Use your affirmations whenever and wherever works best for you.
Now that you know how to create affirmations, you can use them to change your belief systems by silencing your inner critic, “reprogramming” your negative thought habits and creating within yourself a more positive frame of mind. By shifting your belief system and soaking your subconscious thought patterns in your new affirmations, you will make it much easier for the things and experiences you want to manifest into your life.