If you’re like most people you have a lot of fears; some of them conscious, many of them subconscious. We all do, and that’s just part and parcel of being human. But the funny thing about fears is that so many of the ones that have the biggest impact on how we live our lives aren’t really our own; they’re fears we’ve picked up from our associations with other people. And most of those second-hand, or secondary, fears find their roots in the situations in which we grew up – we picked them up as children, from our parents and our families.
In terms of the kind of stuff I deal with most often with readers and listeners, the most common of these secondary fears tend to revolve around money, career choices, and relationships. In today’s podcast episode, we’re going to take a closer look at the first two: how the beliefs your family had around the topics of money and “safe” career options are affecting the way you live your life today. Are your fears really yours, or do you have negative beliefs about wealth that you’ve picked up from someone else? And, furthermore, are these beliefs causing you to think and act in ways that are detrimental to your own ability to create the kind of life you want? Likewise, if you have children of your own, what kind of beliefs are you imparting to them, and how are those beliefs likely affect their own life paths?
One of the greatest opportunities for personal growth that we have comes when we realize how much of our own “baggage” was never ours to begin with. In learning this, we can finally let it go and start moving forward along the path we truly want to be travelling in life.
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That was brilliant and very powerful! Thank you for clarifying further! A much-needed topic of analysis because it affects so many of us. My parents have old-world thinking and sheltered me to such an extent, I did not even know how to think or make a decision for myself nor did I know who I was until after college. You are right about parents. They should allow the child to be who he/she is and just be there to love them. That is all a child really needs. When I was asked to model, my mom said absolutely not, because I would not get married from being too exposed. Well, I thought that was a bad thing, but you know, I do not see any playboy playmates end up as spinsters. Some marry several times. So you see, all these beliefs are based on stuff that is not even valid.
Culture and society also has this effect. Outside forces tend to do that. There are the right things and the wrong things, when the universe does not see it that way. Also, abundance is not just based on money. Sure money makes life easier and more comfortable, but let us not forget health, friends, well-being. People take these for granted and they are of utmost importance.
Hi A. — I’m going to share with you an answer I left in response to someone’s comment about frustrations with parents on the Vibe Shifting Facebook page today:
Something to keep in mind, that might make it easier to let that past go, is that just as we are now doing the best we can, with what we have, from where we are, so did our parents. Times change, societies change, and we have the advantage of having started out further ahead and with more knowledge of how our own thoughts and beliefs affect the reality of our lives (and those of us who do know this are still a minority, albeit a growing one).
We do things differently because of what we know. But this type of thinking would have been rare in our parents’ time… most of their lives would have been spent reacting to what was happening around them, rather than creating what they wanted to see. They wouldn’t have even known it was possible. Much of the way they did things was done out of fear and love, difficult though that may be to understand.