Money and the Law of Attraction: How you feel about money affects how much you have!
I recently had a reader send in a question that made me realize that I haven’t gotten around to tackling the question of money and the Law of Attraction, so I decided today was the day. While the brilliant Carole Remy did provide me with a wonderful guest post on money and Taoism, I haven’t actually written any posts about money and the Law of Attraction yet myself because, quite frankly, it’s still an area I’m struggling with. However, it occurred to me that maybe that wasn’t such a bad thing because I suspect a lot you are in the same boat and we might be able to learn this stuff together.
So, while I am no means an expert in this area, I can certainly tell you my views on this, according to what I’ve learned about money and the Law of Attraction and how to make it all “work” for you.
What we really want
Money, for most of us, is a tough nut to crack. It has become so tied up with survival, that it’s hard for us to separate the concept of money from the concept of what it is we really want. Because, for most of us, it’s not money that we want; it’s what we think we can get with the money. Money is just a means to an ends. We can’t eat money, we can’t wear money, we can’t live in money, and we can’t drive it, either. It’s all those things that we think we can buy with money that we really want, rather than the money itself. But we’ve convinced ourselves that the having of money is the key to having all the other things that we want; that it’s the only way of obtaining those things.
Our conflicting views about money
And this is a big problem because, while the vast majority of us want more money because we see it as essential to our survival, at the same time, we’ve also been conditioned since birth to believe that money is a bad thing or that having it will somehow change us or make us bad. And we all like to think that we’re reasonably good people so, on a vibrational level, we actually prevent ourselves from ever getting more money or becoming wealthy simply because we won’t allow ourselves to become “bad”.
Money and the Law of Attraction: Don’t hate the rich!
From the perspective of money and the Law of Attraction it’s financial self-sabotage, and it’s very deeply ingrained. Consider this: How often have you heard any of the following:
- Money is the root of all evil.
- Absolute power corrupts absolutely.
- The 1% have formed a conspiracy to keep the rest of us in poverty or lack. (Or any other of the never-ending 1% bashing that’s been covered in the media for the past year or so.)
- Rich people got to where they are by walking all over the “little guy”.
- Big corporations steal from us.
- Rich people are greedy bastards.
- All rich people are stuck-up, condescending snobs who think they’re better than everyone else.
- It’s impossible for the average person to get rich.
Sound familiar? I’m sure you can think of more anti-money or anti-wealth sentiments that you’ve come across in your own life. And believe me, it’s so prevalent that it’s an automatic part of your thought processes. For example: How many times have you seen pictures of some celebrity’s 7000 square foot Caribbean villa and instantly felt either jealous or made some comment about how disgusting it is that some people have so much money and other people have none? Or read a story about a wealthy celebrity’s child being given a car that’s worth more than your mortgage for a birthday present and thought something along the lines of “spoiled little rich brat”? We have all been guilty of thoughts like these at some point or other.
Money is just another form of energy
But this type of thinking is actually what prevents us from ever improving our financial situations. From an energetic standpoint, it is not possible for us to attract more money into our lives if every time we see examples of lots of money we react with anger, jealousy and resentment. These are negative emotions, and hence negative vibrations that will only serve to push the money we want further away from us. Remember that money itself is just another form of energy, and if we want to attract more of it, we must become a vibrational match to it or it cannot come into our lives.
Easier said than done, I know. As I said, the money thing is still something that I’m working on in my own life, so I’d be curious to hear your perspectives on this. How have you worked with money and the Law of Attraction in your own life? Have you noticed any correlation between your views on money and the amount of money in your life? Stay tuned for my next article where I’ll be discussing strategies we can use to actually shift our money vibes… let’s see if we can all get this wealth energy working for us. 🙂
I’m not sure if it is a money thing or a material thing…
My best friend seems to think that we are in a competition. When we can only afford a broken rusted boat that we have to fix, she runs out and gets a yacht. Does it bug me? Sure. But you know what? Her and her husband work sometimes 16 hour days. Are they actually living?
I know that we are.
From a Law of Attraction perspective, competition always comes from a place of insecurity… I don’t feel good about myself, so I try to make other people feel bad because it gives me a momentary sense of power and makes me feel better about myself. But it doesn’t last, and the more someone does that, the deeper a hole they dig themselves into because it becomes a self-perpetuating maladaptive thing. Hurting other people, even emotionally, only hurts yourself in the long run.
If you wanted a big yacht, you could have one. If it was that important to you, you would find a way… you could take out a second mortgage, for instance. But having a big fancy boat at this stage of your life is not your biggest priority for how you want to spend your money. You wanted to go boating, and you found a boat that would work for you. It’s not as fancy or new as your friends, but it’s a project that you and your hubby can work on together and make it look exactly the way you want it to. You could even let C help you decorate it (how awesome would that be… you’d be the only boat on the lake with a child’s drawings on it, and think how excited he’d be and how many special memories you’d all get from that!) It may be that this is the exact perfect boat for you at this time.
Your priorities are different than your friend’s. If she’s happy with her big yacht, wish her well, tell her it’s a lovely boat and then get back to the fun you’ve planned with yours. Think about all the great adventures your family will have with your boat, be excited about that, and focus on that. And if some day, you decide that you really do want and are ready for a yacht, it will happen for you in a way that you are comfortable with.
Yes, that is the best way to handle someone who likes to give others a hard time. Wish them well, be cool, thank them and complement them, and focus on the things you want.
And speaking of this, I listened in on a webinar on career management and it was mentioned that they key nowadays, unlike the 90s when I was growing up, is to give the employer what he wants and forget about what you want. This struck an alert inside of me and how anti-LOA it is. I know this may be a topic for another blog post, but I am sure there is a way to do that with LOA. Otherwise, I suspect, this may be a lot of the reason why people get burnt out on the job and go nuts and quit. Points to ponder because how long can one play the game at the office while not living up to one’s true self? That would be an indication for a change. Maybe I should stay away from those webinars myself. I already cut out career blogs from my life and feel great! They were very negative.
Job-coaching should only be done with LOA, I think.
Hi Nathalie,
Great post! Everything you say is so true. Our emotions surrounding money are complicated, to say the least. The realization for me, at the moment, is that when I’m not worried about money, I’m contented and happy.
Not worried is a lot different from having a ton! I’m not worried about money in part because I moved to Mexico, where I need WAY less to live WAY better! Also, with plentiful and cheap taxis, I don’t have, want, or need a car, which used to be a constant financial drain and anxiety. Having access to free, excellent health care also removes a huge financial worry!
There’s an old Taoist saying that if you know what is enough, you will always have enough. Thing is, enough is a lot less than we often think, so we end up always wanting rather than appreciating.
Huge hugs! Have a fantastic Friday, and thank you for the lovely compliment!
Carole
I suspect that the key is to get yourself into the “not worried” state first, and then you’ll find that everything works out. Be contented and happy regardless of whatever one’s money situation is. “Enough” is kind of a nebulous amount… what is “enough”? I imagine that number would be different for each individual, depending on their own particular situation, family status, personality, etc. Hmm…. you’ve given me an idea for another post, my friend. 😉
Taoism fascinates me… there are so many lines in the Tao Te Ching that really make me stop and think. I like the idea that “enough is often less than we think”, but I also like the idea of “being content with what you have while looking forward to what you want”. I think for many the money question is a security thing — having lots of it would mean not having to worry.
It’s awesome that you live in a place where you don’t need a car and your money goes further! Plus you have avocados growing outside your door. I think that is so cool… if I tried to plant an avocado tree up here it would probably pull up it’s roots and start hitchhiking to warmer climates on its own. 😉 lol
How about if you ave good feelings about money and the amount you want still does not flow to you? Do you acknowledge and thank the universe, as always, for what is coming in and focus on what is wanted? Just a guidance question.
And I agree with Kimberly, people around me compete with each other on who has more, who has this and that and brag about each thing. Is this LOA because you talk about it and put it out there, or does it go against universal law because one is bragging, because I had read a swami’s message that humility is the best policy, not to the point of deprivation, but you get the idea, hopefully. Or does the universe not care, it is depends on the vibe you radiate (which I am guessing is closer to the answer).
If you are bragging, do you not draw to you the negative energy of others, which you can handle if your vibe is high, but I gather one needs to brag to prove a point or feel important when the underlying feeling is unworthiness. This is what I also suspect. Or else, there would not be such a need, especially sine the universe hears it all and gives it all, when we are in alignment with what is wanted.
My understanding of this is that if you are actually in alignment with the money, then it will come. Unfortunately, for most of us, getting into alignment with money is really tricky because there are so many layers of stuff we’ve accumulated around the concept — decades of negative perceptions and ideas and jealousy and belief in lack, etc., that it really is hard to actually clear all of that away.
For example, What I’ve noticed in my own life is that I’ve gotten to the point that I can attract money to me (not huge sums, but little clumps here and there), but then there’s always an unexpected bill or something that comes up, so that money that came in never lasts long. So, to my mind, the fact that I can bring some in tells me I’ve worked out some of my money vibe issues, but the fact that it immediately leaves again tells me I still have something in my money vibration that is repelling it again.
Talking about something you have because you’re genuinely very excited and happy about it is different than talking about something you have because you’re trying to make other people feel jealous or because you’re trying to make yourself feel like you’re better than they are. The energy around those two scenarios is completely different. Bragging is, by definition, is done to make others feel bad, and you’re right, it usually comes from a place of insecurity and lack.