I’ve talked before about “little negatives” – the constant barrage of little negative thoughts and words that pepper our daily lives and colour the way we see the world around us. While they may be small things taken on their own, added together their power multiplies and casts shadows over every aspect of our lives. But one of the biggest problems of all with these little negatives is that they exponentially magnify the intensity of that inner critic – those negative inner voices – that we all have inside of us.
Why do we listen to those negative inner voices?
Have you ever stopped to really listen to the things you tell yourself? It’s shocking, really, the kinds of things we spew at ourselves within the confines of our own minds. We’d never talk that critically to anyone else, and if a friend or acquaintance of ours ever talked to us that way we’d be done with them like yesterday’s dinner.
So why is it that we just sit there and take it when we say such things to ourselves? Why are we so ready to listen to the angry, hateful, vindictive, negative voices within that tell us that we’re no good; that we’re useless; that what we’ve created isn’t good enough; that we’re bound to fail; that we’re fat; that we’re stupid; that we’re lazy?
How can you expect yourself to build your dream and create your vision when you’re listening to that kind of B.S. every day? How can you function at all when you’re constantly being told that you’re not good enough? It’s self-sabotage of the highest order. And it’s sneaky. Because most of time you’re not even aware that you’re doing it… it’s become so much of a habit that it’s just a part of the background noise of your life.
Bitter mental poison
So much bitter poison swirling around through the one place in the whole universe were we should feel the most safe and secure: our own thoughts. And it has an impact. You can’t have mental toxins like that washing over you day in and day out without suffering some kind of consequences. Fear. Anger. Depression. Anxiety. Despair.
As long as you continue listening to these negative inner voices, they will continue to call the shots in your life. They will continue to mess up your intentions and affect your ability to create the life and experiences you want for yourself. They will continue to hold you back from living your dream.
Changes the voices in your head
So maybe it’s time to change your story. Maybe it’s time to change those negative inner voices in your head. Maybe it’s time to make them like you, instead.
Whatever you’ve been through in life, it’s never OK to be mean or cruel to people. It’s never OK to deliberately try to inflict pain upon or cause harm to people. And that includes you; it’s time to stop being so mean to yourself.
You have something special to offer the world: your unique talent, your unique gift, your unique perspective. You have an exceptional, never-before-seen spark of magic to add to this world but as long as you continue to listen to those negative inner voices, you’re going to be unable to let that magic shine through in its full glory. You are uniquely, wonderfully, amazingly you, and you have something wonderful to offer the world. You just need to realize it and accept it… and, one by one, your inner critics will start to change their tune.
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Yes, Nathalie, I totally agree with you, yet this world is full of this behavior. These posts are in sync with my thoughts, as I was thinking about this yesterday!
Are people cruel to others to make themselves feel better, important, powerful? This is a sad thing. Is that not an indicator of their low vibe? How do they get away with it? Why is there so much cruelty anyway? No wonder it is my understanding that getting through the “earth school” so to speak makes one’s spirit more experienced than the other spirits who do not choose to come here. Navigating this life must be the most difficult thing in this universe and it is all because dealing with people is nearly impossible, unless you write them off completely and focus fully on your own thing, but that is hard to do, as we have said. There is too much wobbling from steady happiness to sadness and then back to happiness. It is tough to keep the happy vibe steady, unless you live in an ashram. For those of us who do not, we struggle in keeping it up there. Some techniques do help, like the ones you provided in previous posts.
Yes, when people are cruel to others, it is done out of a place of pain. It’s an attempt to make oneself feel better by exerting a form of power over another. It provides a temporary feeling of relief from the pain and powerlessness they feel, but it is only temporary; and it tends to cause a rebound effect, with the person backsliding further into that place of misery for having caused pain to another (although this is not something that they would at all be able to understand on a conscious level).
If you are seeing too much cruelty around you, it’s likely because you’ve gotten yourself stuck into a mindset where you expect to see it. This is one of the reasons I stopped watching the news at night — it focuses disproportionately on the bad stuff in the world and pays no attention whatsoever to all the good stuff. And seeing that all the time clouds your perception so that you think that there is only bad stuff out there. It causes fear, anger, anxiety and depression.
But if you make it a point to actively start looking for examples of the good in the world, you will find. Try Googling “happy news” or “good news” and see what you can find. There are many, many, wonderful, helpful, kind and compassionate people out there. You’re not seeing them because you’re not looking for them… if you are in alignment with an expectation that other people are cruel and negative, then you will not be able to see the others, even if they are right there beside you.
Don’t worry too much about the “wobbles”. They are a sign that your energy is shifting. If you’ve spent a long time in a mindplace where negativity and sadness were common, then it could take some time to get yourself stable in that higher vibe. Be patient with yourself. I still have wobbles like that, all the time. But you know what? The downslides tend to be shorter every time, and I know that I just need to wait it out and my energy will shift back up again. Sometimes just accepting that the wobbles happen is enough to shorten them up and make it easier to get through them; struggle, as you know, doesn’t help things at all.
Nathalie,
I am hoping you will see this at some point and respond. Earlier today, I was at a crosswalk and stopped by a spiritualist who “saw something in my aura”. Without thinking I said “I know, but pass. Next time”. I do not even know how those words came out of my mouth, but they did, I am sure she really did see something, but perhaps I was not ready to listen? Or was it something else? How do I know it was genuine or not? Or will I just know? Not sure if I should have gone ahead and spoke with her further. I am also sure I will be coming across more such individuals down the road, so should I prepare in some way or I do not have to, take it as they come? What do you think?
Always trust your instincts. If you didn’t feel comfortable talking to here, then there is nothing wrong with that. If at some point you feel that consulting with such a person would be helpful to you, then go for it. Just keep in mind that, when people are reading your aura, they are just picking up on your current energy pattern. Remember that you are the only one who controls your destiny and your future… the best any psychic can do is read your present energy patterns and make inferences about what the most likely paths are, IF your energy stays as is. But you control that energy, and when you make changes to your thoughts and your actions, that energy pattern will change, and the so future potentials will also change. The future is never set in stone; it is always fluid.