Bullying is a big topic in schools these days, and the impact of bullying in children’s lives can be devastating. What gets less attention, but which can be just as devastating, is the impact of bullying when it involves adults (adult bullying). Today’s episode is all about workplace bullying, what causes it, and how to cope with it.
From a Law of Attraction perspective, when we look at workplace bullying we’re really looking at the energy of the situation. Whenever more than one person is involved in a situation, it’s what we call a “co-creation” – the energy of each of the individuals involved is aligned to bring forth the particular situation. In workplace bullying situations, the bullies almost always suffer from some sort of feeling of inadequacy and they’re afraid that they are going to be “found out”. The victims of adult bullying situation are usually individuals who are very competent and capable, but who inwardly may question their abilities or who are desperately afraid of losing their jobs for whatever reason.
These energies then align to form a situation where the bullies feel threatened by these very capable people who could make them look bad, so they flip into attack mode to try and make themselves feel superior or more important. And the victims, who are already giving out the energy of worry or fear, finds themselves in yet another situation where they are forced to relive those feelings again.
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This podcast got me thinking of some situations. How about if a parent was not feeling good about themselves or a situation and took it all out on their children, even perpetuated feelings of insecurity and shame in them? Does that fall under bullying? Or maybe, LOA-wise, these examples serve as growth opportunities for those experiencing them? It can take years to overcome, however.
I like what one guru recently mentioned. That they are ways for one to become unstoppable in life. This really resonated. Like, putting all the bs and crap behind you, using it as fuel to move onward and outward, reaching ever new heights. As a matter of fact, that was the beginning of the spiritual life of many gurus.
How you feel is the most important, isn’t it? You may be incompetent or competent, but you need to feel like a star, no matter what, so energetically things can be smooth and work out. That is what I took from this topic.
Is feeling sorry for someone in or out of the vortex? I would think both self-pity and pitying another would be out of the vortex, as neither feels good. So much to learn with LOA. It is a process.
You know, I also wonder why some people do not respond to the polite way of doing things. Rather, they only get it when you yell and scream at them for them to even have a clue that you are serious in what you say. Why would that be?
Many questions worth looking into further, I think.
Every event of our lives can be used as a catalyst to propel us forward into greater things. We are the ones who choose whether our difficulties will make us better or if they will make us bitter.
I believe that your outlook is the biggest factor in determining how you weather the inevitable storms of life. If you allow yourself to become bitter and disillusioned, then this is the flavour that will tint the rest of your life. If you choose, instead, to look for the positive and to believe that wonderful things can and do happen, then this becomes the dominant pattern in your life.
I believe that pity is an ugly emotion. It’s demeaning for the person in the difficult situation, it doesn’t solve anything, and all it does is bring down the energy of everyone involved. So, definitely out of the vortex. Compassion, on the other hand, is a bit different — we can have compassion for someone in the their suffering without leaving the vortex. The key, as you surmised, is in how it feels.
When people around don’t react to anything but screaming, remember that situations that involve others are always co-creations — they form through the energy and alignment of ALL those involved, including yours. If the alignment of any of those involved changes, the dynamic of the entire situation will also change.
Dear Nathalie
I haven’t listened in a while and I was having a rough day at work. Your podcast always helps me find a better place so that I can start shifting my vibe so I scrolled through the list and started binge listening. When I heard the title “bullying in the workplace” I started cracking up. Today, I was in the bathroom taking long deep breaths after a unhappy experience with my boss. I allowed myself to feel the experience – angry, frustration, hurt – and then I started working on shifting my vibe – I’m a valuable employee, I work hard, I’m a professional, this isn’t forever, and then I started visualizing and feeling what it would be like to be my own boss, then what it would feel like to win $25 million in the lottery, and so on – I was able to turn my mood around quickly, but your podcast helped me shut the door to this morning’s experience and I thank you and the reader who wrote to you about bullying in the workplace.
By doing your exercise, I was able to quickly identify why I attract the engagement I have with my boss. I can’t believe it was so easy. I’ve worked here for 10 years (in 2 days) and this is the first time that I can SEE what is being triggered when we have these types of engagements.
Thank you.
Kimberly
Wow, Kimberly! Such a huge energy shift in such a short time — that’s awesome! I’m so happy that the podcast episode was able to help you with that, and I absolutely love hearing people’s success stories like this. 🙂 It will be interesting to see what the interaction is like from here on in… I’ll bet either your boss is going to start being a lot nicer to you, or he’ll just leave you alone, or he’ll move on to another job and that will be that.