In today’s post we’re looking at whether it’s possible to fix a break-up with LOA, and it’s a response to a question sent in from an awesome reader who says:
My biggest confusion is to know if I can be with my ex-boyfriend again who I know loves me and wants to be with me back. There are many people who say it’s possible and some say it’s not because of free will. I truly believe he wants to be with me but due to his fears, he is giving up on us.
This is a great question, because the idea of being able to fix a break-up with LOA touches on that gray area between what we want versus what someone else wants. Which tends to be an area of great confusion for a great many people: when one person wants something and another person potentially wants something different, what actually ends up getting manifested? Which desire is the one that ends up coming true?
The answer is: they both do.
Now here’s the tricky part: what you both end up manifesting is whatever you are in alignment with, which is not necessarily what you think you want.
How to fix a break-up with LOA
So, the simple answer to the question of whether or not you can fix a break-up with LOA is that it really could go both ways, and the determining factor (as with everything) is with the alignment of both individuals. More specifically, it is always possible that you could get back together with your ex, but only if you are both in alignment with this. That’s where the free will comes in: if either one of you is not aligned with getting back together with each other, it’s not going to happen. And remember that it has more to do with just thinking that you want to be with each other – both of your internal belief systems with regards to being in a relationship will come into play here, too.
If you are both in alignment with getting back together, then you will definitely move forward together in what we call a co-creation; that is, you’ll build that reality with each other, together (hence the term “co-creation”).
(As an interesting side note here, anyone who crosses you path and has any kind of effect on you – even the annoying guy on the bus who plays his MP3 player really, really, loudly — is there because you’re in alignment with them being there… it’s just another form of co-creation.)
Figuring out what you really want
The more important thing with this kind of question, however, is for you to figure out what it is you really want. Is it this specific person that you really want? Or is it more that you really want to be in a wonderful relationship with someone who loves you, and who you love in return. Someone who respects you and adores you and gives you all those butterflies in your stomach every time you think about him? Really think about this, because it’s important. And if you realize that what you really want is just to be in great relationship, with someone really awesome – whoever that might end up being — then it’s actually critical that you don’t make it dependent on this one specific guy, because when you do that, you put constraints on what the Universe is trying to line up for you.
So focus instead on being in a great relationship. Spend some time thinking about all the great things you’re looking for in a perfect partner (whatever perfect might be for you), and how great it is to know that someone who matches that vision is out there right now looking for someone just like you, because you match his vision of the perfect partner, too! 🙂
In the end, the answer is yes, it is entirely possible to fix a break-up with LOA, but only if both parties are in alignment with getting back together again. The more important thing by far, however, is to determine whether getting back together with that specific individual is what you really want for yourself and your future. If your desire is to be in a truly amazing and fulfilling relationship that will bring you the joy and love you really want, then you have to be willing to let go. You have to be willing to trust the Universe, and trust yourself, to line up the perfect relationship for you. And it will happen.
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Fantastic post and great question! I believe if someone really loves you and you love them, there is always a chance to get back together with that person.
If two people keep each other alive in their heart, mind and soul, the universe makes it happen at some point. One must be open to the possibility. I have seen this numerous times.
Breakups occur for many reasons, and after one or both parties worked on themselves, depending on the reason for the break-up , then the universe orchestrates a reunion/reconciliation.
Is this LOA stuff a lifetime of learning? I find I still need to work on it to really get it. Is it more of a matter of living life while being chill, basking in it and all it offers and just being glad, yet mixing it up from time to time, always knowing that it will one day be awesome and going towards that? That is what Abe keeps saying.
I didn’t go into it in this post, but yes, definitely. It is very possible that two people can be with each other during a time period in which the relationship is part of each of their own journeys, but then end up apart as they evolve down different paths. Those paths can then cross again later, allowing them to co-create and grow together again. Sometimes a critical part of your own development and evolution as an individual means you need to be apart from each other. Sometimes you continue to evolve separately, and sometimes the growth that both of you experience during that time apart is enough for you to want to move on together again. But again, don’t make it dependent on that specific individual — focus on what you want in a relationship and if the two of you match up with each other again, then it will happen.
In my experience LOA is a continuous learning process, yes. The more I learn about this, the more levels and nuances and flavours there seem to be, and the more there is to find out. It’s endlessly fascinating, and I absolutely love it.
P.S. Find the awesome in the now. Bask in that. And assume that there’s ever more of it as you go along. 😉
I saw one of my favorite country movies, Sweet Home Alabama and I realized a few things about what we speak of in LOA. I know it is a movie, but movies are reflections of life and are LOA based. If you have not seen the movie, it is about a country girl who marries and becomes pregnant with her soul-mate’s child, only to lose it and needs to get away from it all to pursue her dreams in NYC. She is now to be married to the most eligible bachelor in the city, but her husband refuses to give her a divorce. She goes down south to make her husband sign the divorce papers, which she succeeds after he is disgusted by her snooty attitude.
It is a very endearing movie, and I noticed all the LOA elements in it. She was not ready to be a mom (she was only 19) and was not satisfied with her relationship with her soul-mate at the time. So she went off and pursued her dream, thinking that they are not compatible with one another. In her 7 year absence, her husband realizes a few things and improves himself, starts a successful business and reaches his full potential and so does she. They need time away from one another to grow enough and come back together. She is not really in love with the most eligible bachelor, but proves to herself and others that she could score one. The times spent apart from her husband is vital in self-growth and discovery and building the foundation needed to be successful in life and family.
She badgers her husband during those 7 years by sending him the papers while he mailed them back to her attorney, and even confronts him about it, but it is only when she stops this behavior that he finally signs the papers. In preparing for her wedding, she and a couple of friends come across her husband’s business and upon visiting it, she realizes how he changed and falls in love with him all over again. Also, in an intimate conversation at a fair, he admits that she really was not ready to be a mom and the universe knew best and allowed the miscarriage and he realized she needed to become something of herself first, as did he.
So, soul-mates help each other grow and thrive. They do not impede each other. This is the take away message of my beloved movie. And nothing is lost. One needs experiences to take them to where they need to be or where their vibration is at, always expanding and learning things. Cool, huh?
I think I saw that movie once — Reese Witherspoon, right? You really have a talent for picking up the LOA elements in these stories, and that is really cool! 🙂
I definitely agree that in the best relationships, people help each other to grow and realize their full potential (although that actually still happens in “bad” relationships, too — just not in a “nice” way). We are always growing and gaining new experiences and understanding. We are constantly evolving. In relationships that last and are happy, the two people in question are able to grow with each other. But this isn’t always the case — sometimes, as a necessary part of their own individual processes of growth, it becomes necessary for two people to move apart. In time, their paths may cross again in the form of a new version of their relationship. Or they may never become involved in that way again. It depends on what each person wants and needs as part of their own development.
Yup, that is the movie. Thanks!
Speaking of which, I saw the trailer for a new movie coming out, The Secret Life of Walter Mitty. In high school I it and we concluded that his life was drab and had to create another one in his fantasies. Well, 15 years later, I must say that this is LOA in its finest, no? He fantasizes and manifests as well. Hmmmm, this is what we are talking about!
I’ve never actually read this story, but the premise does sound rather LOA, doesn’t it? Ask, visualize, believe… receive. 🙂
Another great upcoming LOA movie is the animated Turbo. I think the kids will love it!
OK, I had to Google that one, but yes it does sound LOA, doesn’t it? Underdog racing snail has big dream of winning Indy 500 and helps his friends find their own dreams along the way. 🙂