I have a really inspiring video about the power of your mind to share with you this morning, from Carrie Green of the Female Entrepreneur Association. Carrie runs one of the biggest online entrepreneurial groups for women in the world right now, with over one hundred thousand followers on Facebook alone. She publishes the e-magazine This Girl Means Business, in which she has interviewed some of the biggest names in both the business and personal development fields. She’s built up an amazing business for herself and inspires so many women all around the world to go for the gold by sharing her wonderful insight and experience with us every day. On top of that, she’s just plain awesome.
But it wasn’t always like that for her. (Well, I suspect that she was always awesome, but she didn’t always have the business success that she currently enjoys.) At one point she was out of money and not sure what she was going to do. So she launched a business and took it global. Everyone thought she’d “made it”, but she was desperately unhappy. She realized she needed to make a change in order to build the kind of life she really wanted for herself.
This is Carrie’s TEDx talk that she gave a few months ago in Manchester, England, where she talked about the power of your mind and how your perspective impacts your decisions, and determines whether or not you’re even going to take the chance to become successful. She talked about the importance of what’s happening inside your head and how a shift in thought habits was the key to completely changing her life.
If you’ve ever been in a situation where everyone around you thought that your life was a fabulous success and that you had everything going for you, but deep inside you were completely miserable and you couldn’t figure out why, then don’t miss this one. If you want to achieve amazing things in your life and create a life you truly love, then you really do have to start with what’s happening in your own mind.
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Nathalie,
I just came from the Abe forum where Abers were telling a fellow Aber to stay in her vortex and totally not any pay attention to a co-worker talking smack about her to bring her down, as he is in his vortex to make himself feel better but she is getting out of hers by pushing against his antics.
I understand this theoretically, but how to put this into practice. It all has to do with the power of the mind and feeling better. I have a similar situation with a cousin in law who feels great tormenting extended family members by being nasty, being taken to court by them, and refusing to buy my portion of an apartment we share just to make it life difficult. I thought there would be a chance for me to sell it to him in the future after he originally approached me with an offer, because I was very young and nobody trusted him and I followed what they said, even though I did not agree with them. Anyway, the damage is done and now I have to pay taxes on an apartment that generates no income. My parents are paying for it now, actually, but what happens later on?
How can this matter be resolved if we both remain in our vortexes, i.e., he continues being a jerk to feel powerful, and me not caring, or trying not to? Will I need to just give it to him one day, not caring what others say about me being ripped off? Will I be ripped off? What a mess, even though LOA won’t agree because every problem has a solution. And my mom hounds me regularly to talk with the lawyer handling the paperwork when there is nothing to talk about, since they are not buying it. Will this matter be resolved with our children? How about if they move in and use the place and I will still pay taxes for half of it when I do not want to. They do not want to sell to a third party or go to auction, solutions that would benefit both of us. Both signatures are needed when the property is shared. This is in Europe, by the way.
I do not want this to get me down. I would rather be uplifted.
I can’t give you legal advice as I am not a lawyer (and definitely have no experience with legal matters in other countries); you’d have to contact a property lawyer in the country in question to find out what your rights are and what possible avenues of approach you might have. But from an LOA perspective, the best thing you can do right now is to focus on the feeling of an ideal solution for everyone involved. Pushing against the situation just adds to the negative energy it’s brewing, as does focusing on your fears of being ripped off and your anger at the bullying tactics of the other party.
It sounds like the emotions surrounding this issue are running high on all sides, so maybe it would help to just back away for a little bit in order to clear your own vibe and get some perspective. Ignore the phone calls, put the emails on hold and just let the situation sit for a bit. Once you’ve had some time away from it you may, out of the blue, come up with a novel solution that you hadn’t considered before.
Thanks, Nathalie. I was not seeking legal advice. I just had to add those details to create a clearer picture of this situation that gets me so mad and sad. I thought those details would help.
Yes, ultimately I would need to feel better about the whole thing and yes, there are deep emotions there. I am more irreverent and do not care about it as much as the other party. He is obviously not in his vortex and is doing bad things for relief, at least for him, and I understand that. He is really hurting and feels so powerless. My relatives always talk about “leverage” and who has the “upper hand”, yadda, yadda, yadda, and they think he has the upper hand, yet I focus on the LOA for solutions because that is truly the only way and no one else knows about those principles. If I can stay in my vortex and not get so upset or pissed off that my blood boils, then, according to law, I will be better off for it compared with him and it will, one day (maybe even decades into the future) be settled.
I wonder if it has anything to do with you at all. Maybe he’s doing all this to bug someone else in your family, and you just happen to be stuck in the middle of it. So maybe a direct approach would work best… ask him what he wants to do and what he thinks a fair solution to the problem would be. Might catch him off-guard. And if he thinks you’re genuinely interested in hearing his response, then maybe he’ll come up with one for you. And if he’s the one who comes up with it, he’s far more likely to follow through and actually get it done, I would think. But before you approach him, my suggestion would be to get yourself stabilized in a really high-vibration mode, though.
Oh, that is awesome! Yes! Good to know. We, however, are not on speaking terms and he hangs up the phone, so, even if this is targeted at his in laws, who he assaults and attacks when they wish to speak with him, I am stuck in the middle of it. I turn to the universe for a solution because only source can do it. I do not know when, in my narrow scope, but the universe will provide. I take it as a sign that people tell me to hold on to the property and not give it away to him for peace of mind. I do not deal with him directly, anyway, so I am thankful and grateful for that. I focus only on the positive. And I do not look back at the time he wanted to buy it from me either, when I was younger. My mom said not to sell to him and I listened to her. I cannot go back and regret because it was a different vibe then.
Meanwhile, I am practicing a high vibration, and you will be glad to know I am in good shape. I do not cry anymore, except when I am moved and tears of joy.